Well after working there for over 3 months it has finally happened. I was told to stop using the womens restroom where I work until the gender marker on my drivers license is changed, and was told to start using the mens if I use the public restrooms. I was told that several associates had complained about my using the facilities. Going into the mens restroom for us would be like commiting suicide. I'm not going there and it isnt really feasable. I however can still use the womens restroom in the associates lounge as it is a single occupancy restroom.
I guess after being there for this long now that there are a good number of people who know about me. Not what my past is but what I am now. And I guess there are people there who actually must hate me because of that. Never the less after being told I couldn't help but start crying. Another slap in the face. What was I hurting using the restroom? I guess I know I am pushing things around here. I know people talk about me there... I see it when I go into the associates lounge, they look and then turn quiet. Most of the time I sit alone there, unless I am with the crew I work with, or with a very few people whom I have actually become friends with. Whether they know or not I don't know.
Sometimes I just sit and wish... OH heck I dont know. Just part of being who I am I guess, but it is so hard sometimes... heck, a lot of times.
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- I am a 40 something Transwoman living in central Florida south of Orlando, and southeast of Tampa. I am living full time as the woman I should have been born, and am loving every minute.
3 comments:
Oh dear, I'm so sorry to hear about that. They probably have the upper hand until you get the D/L changed unfortunately, but I don't know how it works in your state.
Just when you saw the light shining this crap blows up in your face. At least they didn't make an even bigger deal.
Either way, you've overcome much worse, I know your strength and resolve, and I suspect you'll march through this obstacle just fine my friend! HUGS!
Lori
Hi there! I don't think we know each other...I found you through Lori's site...
I can totally relate to the bathroom issue. I'm a corporate employee at a large midwestern retailer (60,000 employees, 150+ stores) and I'm the first to transition on-the-job there. I spent months with our Human Resources department, hammering out the guidelines for myself and future transitioners. And despite vigorously over it, the one thing they would not give me was permission to use the public restrooms. I made it clear I would continue to advocate for equal bathroom privileges, but that I would follow their stupid rules in the meantime. Even so, it didn't take two weeks before people were falsely accusing me of using the public Women's restroom...no doubt troublemakers hoping to get me fired. I was obviously cleared of all wrongdoing, but the mere insinuation and the resulting investigation it triggered was one more indignity heaped on top of what was already an unfair situation.
Hang in there, though. The battle won't be won over night, but we'll get there. Hopefully in the not-too-distant future, we'll have federal protection for our workplace issues and this bathroom chicanery we have to deal with will be a thing of the past.
My God, what is this thing about bathrooms? Are natal women performing some secret ritual when they are in the stall? Do they believe we will stare at them thru the cracks around the door to look at their parts? Good Grief, Charlene Brown!! Give it up!!
I think it's high time we do what the European's do, use the bathroom together, one bathroom for males and females. Who cares if some old fat man shows his wrinkled winkie, or some woman adjust their panties out of the crack in their a$$, we don't want loose our eyesight by looking.
We spend too much time, energy and money hiding our privates from people who could care less with what you have.
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